Words We Heard: ‘I am in charge of my own destiny and also my own socks!’

Summer is a perfect time to try new things and focus on rebuilding and rejuvenating our lives and mindsets. Whether it’s trying to find a new hobby or picking an old one back up, summer is the time to do it. But it can be hard to find the motivation to do all of these things when we doubt ourselves. We tend to question our abilities and can feel like someone else would be the better fit. There is also the fear and belief that we are not good enough.

As Mindy Kaling shares in her recent commencement speech and what I think is the perfect mantra, “Why not me?” It is the perfect question. Why not you? Why is someone else more deserving, when you have worked just as hard? Why not you? You are capable, intelligent, and good enough. This week, focus on being your own cheerleader and believing that you can do it.


  • “The less embarrassed we are by the depths of our own minds, by our mistakes, by the things that make us complicated, the less isolated and more connected – and powerful – we will be.” –actress and comedian Jamie Lee in an article for Girlboss

  • “Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do something, but especially not yourself. Go conquer the world. Just remember this: Why not you? You made it this far.” –Mindy Kaling in her commencement speech for Dartmouth

  • “We see women really owning their potential to make an impact, owning the fact that we have to be the leaders we’ve been waiting for.” –Clare Bresnahan English, former executive director of the national organization She Should Run in an interview for Cincinnati Magazine

  • “I always have this motto: ‘Don't tell me no; tell me how.’ There's always a way.” –Debbie Smith, the Vice President of Education for Employment for Easterseals Serving Greater Cincinnati, in an interview with Women of Cincy

  • “Say it aloud: I am in charge of my own destiny and also my own socks!” –writer Rachel Seville Tashjian in a Lenny Letter article

  • “Our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance. Be you. Belong.” –Brené Brown, author of Women & Shame and the Brené Brown blog, in her weekly email, “Your weekly dose of daring”